What I know for sure at the age of 55

Here on my 55th birthday, I have now officially lived more of my life than what is left to live. So here’re a few lessons I have learned over the years--and to borrow Oprah’s expression--what I know for sure.

1. When other people criticized, diminished, or looked down on my strengths (to make their own lights shine brighter), I had to learn how to embrace my value. Just because you’re not valued, doesn’t mean you’re not valuable. Sometimes this means that you have to carry on with your dreams and visions, even without other people’s sanctioning or approval. I am not suggesting to proceed in arrogance; do so with a sense of humility and use judgement, wisdom and discretion. All I’m suggesting is that being a multi-talented visionary can be a lonely road, and not everyone will “get” you. I’m learning to stop explaining myself and simply do what I’m called to do.
2. It’s not for naught, so sow good seeds everywhere. They will spout up and boomerang in the most unexpected times.
3. It takes longer to do things than we anticipate, so don’t jam and cram the schedule lest the volume crush and suffocate you. Quality still matters, so take the time to do it right in spite of technological advances. We’re not robots!
4. Strive to live a well-balanced life. There’s so much more for us to do here on earth. Therefore, be intentional about the composition of our days.
5. Protect your personal space and...
6. Leave difficult, contentious people alone and let them be. Don’t get caught up in their strife. Don’t do anything to hurt or harm them, or retaliate against them. Just limit your contact and keep a safe distance in order to protect your personal space lest they drag you down in the mud with them.
7. Don’t get so caught up with life and the consumption of living that you wake up one day and wonder “Where did all of the money go?”
8. Sorry to sound preachy, but “Do not give what is holy to the dogs; nor cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you in pieces.” (Matthew 7:6) My interpretation of this is just because I know how do to event planning, for example, doesn’t mean I am meant to be on every event-planning committee. This can lead to burnout and even resentment, as well as under-appreciation by the recipient. My talents are a special gift from God and pardon the expression, but I need to stop prostituting them.
9. Listen more and talk less. I learn a heck of a lot more when I keep my mouth shut.
10. Enjoy life more! (and a trip to Antigua -- as we did on our 30th anniversary -- can’t hurt)